I want to cry. I want to cry this afternoon more than I've ever wanted a piece of chocolate. I can feel inside me that I need to. But, the tears won't come. I now realize what I hadn't thought of before Monica passed away. Getting through the grief of losing her won't be like anyone else I know. I won't be able to just compare and console and understand in a way that is ideal and healthy. It will take me much, much longer. And cognitively I will stay in a fog for more extended periods of time.
One component of my illness is depression, which makes perfect sense considering pain is ever present. I am on an effective regimen of anti-depressants (I take a cocktail of 3 kinds every morning) and would not consider going off them for any reason. Not only will I not do it, my entire team of doctors would not allow it, I'm certain. And those medicines are the reason I can't cry for her today. I want to. I miss her. Anti-depressants effectively shorten the range of emotion available to us. I no longer can feel my lowest low feelings. Also, I can no longer feel my highest joys. My range is maybe a 6 to a 14 instead of a 0 to 20, if numerals help you. I accept that because I must. I am at peace with it only because I acutely understand the alternative provides zero quality of life.
I have been trying to make myself cry for about an hour now. And I don't want to just get on you-tube and find some random video that is tear-jerking and use that as my way out of this. I want and need to grieve the loss of my baby sister. And, damn it, I can't cry. Not today, anyway. I want to pass through this grieving period in a reasonable time, and at a reasonable pace, naturally in my own way, but not delayed because of stupid chemicals that won't let me cry. I am sort of abandoned on the grief highway and left there, not able to go in either direction. I can't come out of it because well, there's deep sadness left for me to feel and process. And I can't dive in to the deep sadness because my medicines won't allow it chemically. I'm on the grief Exit ramp. And I can't get there.
Maybe one day this week, I'll accomplish progress on this front. I hope so.
I'm so grateful for the anti-depressants and their function of stabilizing my mood and masking some of the physical pain, that they are affordable and that I have found some that work for me without horrendous side-effects.
Here's to happy days. Hoping y'all have them.
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